Conquer Your Key Moments-Part Two

A key moment is an event or situation which presents a challenge to us and demands a response.  The key moment occurs; we interpret it according to our paradigms; we assign meaning to the moment; we experience feelings about the moment; we behave following the key moment; we move down a positive or negative pathway.  Wow!  That’s a lot of absorb, and the whole thing must take minutes upon minutes to go through….right?   No, the response chain can happen very quickly.

The beginning parts to the response chain (interpretation according to paradigm, assignment of meaning, experience of feelings) can take only a matter of seconds.  The interpretation part can be almost natural, as it is based on our paradigms (core beliefs).  It is a “go to” thought for us, almost automatic.  The interpretation is the “spin” we put on an event.  The spin is driven by our core beliefs.

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Conquer Your Key Moments

Life is wonderful, isn't it!  We have so many things to be thankful for, in our lives.  We are able to make choices about our lives, not suffer under government tyranny.   We are able to travel to beautiful places….whether it’s across an ocean, across state lines, or across the yard to the neighbor’s.  We are able to participate in sports or watch them from the sidelines.  We can read books and magazines by turning pages or by pushing the advance key of our e-reader.  Some would even say life is great, because we have over 250 channels to choose from, as we lounge on the couch.

But, there are times life is filled with adversity.   And, I don’t mean when the electricity goes out for three hours, and we miss our favorite television shows.  I am talking about difficult times, where we are struggling.  These can be huge, traumatic events or everyday hassles.  We all know people who turn everyday hassles into traumatic events, but you see where I’m going with this.

Even though we have made many great discoveries about our world (it’s not flat, water can be turned into electricity, the universe may hold opportunities for us), and have created magnificent inventions (automobile, computer, air conditioning), we have not been able to rid our lives of adversity.  There is no magic wand that whisks away every negative aspect of our lives.  So, our choice then is to learn strategies for dealing effectively with these adversities.

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