Interpersonal Dialogue: Core Principles-Part One

Conflict resolution contains many styles of communication.  Dominating, accommodating, and avoiding are three common ones.  However, these three can create a situation that is somewhat lopsided…..one person “wins” and the other “loses”.  An alternative to these is the style of dialogue…to create “win-win” relationships.

Dialogue is creating a pool of shared understanding in an atmosphere of respect.  The goal is to decide on a mutually beneficial outcome.  When this outcome is achieved, the group has created synergy.  Synergy is people working together and recognizing that, as a group, they can create a better solution together—rather than individually.

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Motivation-Part Two

There are many things that motivate us in our lives.   It is what drives our behaviors.  It is what helps us make the decision to do something that is scary or hard.  It is what helps us modify our natural behaviors, so we can fit in better or work in a group more productively.  Our motivators (or values) are formed through repeated experiences and multiple exposures in our world.  This determines our beliefs about what is valuable or good.

Research we follow indicates there are seven motivators:  aesthetic, economic, individualistic, political (leadership), altruistic, regulatory, and theoretical.  Furthering defining these scales of motivators:  aesthetic—form, harmony, balance; economic—bottom line results, competition; individualistic—control own fate, be unique; political—influence, leadership: altruistic—compassion, unselfishness; regulatory—standards, routine, order; and theoretical—knowledge, reasoning, learning.

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Motivation-Part One

Why do people act that way?  Where is the motivation, the enthusiasm, the interest?  You may have asked these questions when thinking about your family, friends, or co-workers. Or, you may have asked these questions about yourself.

Motivation is thought of as drive, impetus, and inspiration.  We exhibit this by the energy we bring to a task or the enthusiasm with which we try something new.  When motivation exists, stuff gets done and people work well together.

However, this does not always happen.  Some facts:

• 70% of workers say they are not fully engaged in their work.
• 96% of employees believe they cannot attain  personal career goals in their current jobs
• 53% of managers report not being happy with their current jobs
• Gallup poll in 2011: 71% not engaged in work
• Jobvite in 2012: 75% of people are actively looking for, or open to, new jobs
• APA in 2009: 69% say work causes significant stress in their lives

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